As I was reading a fellow bloggers post, Genetics Determine Everything. The author was taken aback by a lecture he had recently heard. The lecture was presented by Dr. Robert Schrire, an emeritus professor at the University of Cape Town. What struck the blogger was the lecturer’s statement “that ‘free choice’ is a myth, as it relates to who we are, what do we, and how we think and act” and “so very much of who we are is genetically pre-determined.” Taken aback? Yes? But that doesn’t mean it’s not true. This and other astounding revelations are the crux of my book, The Caveman Formula. As I combed through the research from 10,000 years ago as to how men handled relationships back then (compared to now) and after having interviewed over 20,000 men on their thoughts and actions regarding relationships, I, like the doctor above, agree that much of what we do is already scripted. I also claim that NOT MUCH* HAS CHANGED over thousands of years. *our actions and reactions Are we human? Yes. Do we have the ABILITY for higher, cognitive reasoning and choice? Yes. Do we use it? No. We often only use that aspect of our brain when we are forced to. The other 95% of the time, we operate from our animal instincts. We are animals. Our reactions and actions to stimulation and motivation are practically automatic, much like a sneeze is involuntary. What determines our reactions/actions (based on my research)? Biology, hormones, our DNA, our enzymes, our synaptic firings, and the like. Shocking? Yes. But until you understand WHY we do what we do, it is only then that we can establish a path to take a different course, a path that may serve us better. We are so arrogant to think we are not animals. We are so arrogant to think that there are NOT already processes put in place. Get real. Do you really think Mother Nature would let this process go to chance? These processes are in place to insure the continuance of the species. One last thought is our arrogance to think that the opposite sex thinks just like we do (ie ‘women want sex as much as we do’, etc.). At first glance, the reader might be shocked, then hate me, then resist what I am saying...only to find out that when you accept who we are and what we are about, the journey to peace and success with the opposite sex is lasting. Enjoy!